Signalling your turns...

I've been reading my new book "Life is a Verb" from Patti of 37 days (click on her blog on the right). Anyway last week I had a situation to where I didn't tell anybody how I felt about something but some how it sort of leaked out anyhow (and not in a good way) and there was misunderstanding, hurt, tears, beating oneself up, you know all the stuff. On the weekend I read the chapter about Signalling your turns (you can read it here) where Patti tells a story about driving around in her car and people being upset with her, but not knowing why. And the reason was because her indicators weren't working!

A light went on in my sad little brain and I realised that I don't signal my turns. It makes complete sense. Then I've had a talk or three this week with Mike about setting boundaries and such like and it all fits in together.

Unless we signal to others our intentions and our plans and maybe our challenges, they won't know why we react in a certain way, and they won't know what to expect. Also they won't know what our expectations are. Like all insights, its blindingly obvious once you realise.

So I ask myself how can I signal my turns, unless... I know where I'm going!

Lucky I have a plan then! (they're called GOALS)